Conflict can be healthy

吵吵更健康

No relationship will be smooth sailing from start to finish. No matter how much you care about someone, or how much you have in common, there will be times when you disagree. Sacrifice, compromise, and communication will soon take the place of quarreling or arguing。

没有感情不争吵。不管你有多在乎对方，不管你们有多少共同点，你们肯定会有意见不合的时候。忍让、妥协交流都能让你们停止争吵。

Your body issues aren’t really issues

外貌不是问题

All of us have hang-ups about our appearance, but being with your first love will make you view yourself in a different way. In fact, significant others will often adore the qualities you think are flaws. Most importantly, your first love will surely teach you to see your body in a more positive way, regardless of the road your relationship takes。

我们都很在乎自己的外表，但是你的初恋会让你用不一样的方式看待自己。事实上某些人还会羡慕你自己眼中的缺点。更重要的是，不管你们的感情路如何，初恋会教你用另一种更积极地方式看待你自己。

Selflessness is a virtue

无私是一种美德

If you’re like most of us, the biggest concerns in life are things that affect you. While a self-centered approach is often valuable in career and education endeavors. Learning to share your time and space long-term will be absolutely crucial to a successful love life in the future. First loves challenge our selfishness。

像我们大多数人一样，生活中最大的问题就是影响到自己的问题。然而以自我为中心最大的好处就体现在职场和教育中。学着与人分享你的时间和空间对于未来完美的感情生活是很重要的。初恋往往挑战着你的自私。

You’re too hard on yourself

对自己太严厉

Many of us hold what we think are high standards for ourselves, but they are in fact impossible standards. if you would be soft on a friend in the same situation, there’s no need to be hard on yourself. If your relationship’s a healthy one, your first love will undoubtedly challenge this habit。

我们许多人都给自己定了高要求，但实际上都做不到。如果同样的情况下你能对朋友做到轻松相待，那你也没必要对自己严厉，如果你们感情很好，那么毫无疑问你的初恋也会挑战你的这一习惯。

Relationships need love too

感情也需要爱的经营

Maintaining a relationship is much different than casually dating or starting a relationship. To truly care for someone else takes effort and longevity. Learning how to care for someone over time, and how to make the right decisions for your situation, is a critical lesson we take from our first love。

维持一段感情不同于平常的约会，和你们刚恋爱的时候也不一样要真正花时间和精力去照顾对方。学着如何关心别人，怎样做出最正确的决定等都是我们从第一段感情那里学到的最重要的一堂课。